Emotional Maturity
“I’m boiling over with rage!” How often we can hear this terrible phrase! And this is even worth when we say this phrase by ourselves….
We got used that only our deeds can destroy something, but in fact this is not so. Even our thoughts and feelings can be dangerous, let alone words.
Happiness doesn’t come to us from outside. Happiness is something inside of us, it is in our soul! This is an extremely delicate thing and you don’t need to do a lot to break it completely. People say that it is easier to destroy something than to build it; and the same is here. Only one negative word, thought or feeling will be enough to destroy everything what you were creating for a long time!
Scientists say that in the majority of cases people show their negative feelings when they do not agree with other people! But this is so often you can say! How can it be changed?
Wise and mature people, however, say that this is always possible to avoid all these negative things and even to control them! Every well-bread person knows that we must control our negative feelings when we see that someone did something wrong from our point of view. But how should we do this? Believe me, this is not really difficult. The first thing we should do is simply to stop, look around and think about what I would do if I were on his or her place. We should try to imagine our behavior, our words and thoughts in the same situation and we should remember that we do not have any right to judge people let alone to offend them. Therefore, we can also make a mistake and it is not up to us to decide what is wrong or right in this or that case.
On the other hand, when we realize that we did something wrong that did not coincide with our personal principles, we direct all these remorse, repentance, culpability towards ourselves. These negative emotions, however, can also destroy us and our happiness and we often begin self-flagellation instead of simple thinking about why I did this or that, why I behaved in such a way, why I exceeded my personal limits of permission. We shouldn’t cry over split milk, but we should analyze the situation and it will be more useful for our inner world and will help us find our weak places and improve our will and character.
Yes, I don’t not want to say that avoiding and controlling negative thoughts, feelings and emotions are an easy task, but when you understand that this is not good for people around you but for your personal happiness then, everything will be possible! Don’t forget that we are the blacksmiths of our own fortune and everything is only in our hands!
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